Relator is one of the 34 Clifton StrengthsFinder talent themes. More than 27% of people who have taken the assessment have Relator in their Top 5 report. Here are 7 ways to develop your Relator talent and turn it into a strength!
1. Identify Your Core People
As someone high in Relator, you have an “inner circle” of two to five people. Who are they? How often do you see them? These are your most trusted relationships and the ones you need to invest in the most.
2. Take Time
Even if you don’t see some of them often, maintaining frequent contact can nurture these relationships for life. Take time out of your schedule to make that phone call, connect through social media, plan a trip.
Spend time with your closest friends to develop your Relator talent!
3. Build Depth
With your Relator talent, you’re great at building depth in your communities. You like to know the “fullness” of people — not just stuff about them at work, but personal details as well. Find ways to get to know the people in your organization or on your team. Get to know them outside the office. You have the talent to take others deep, when otherwise, conversations and relationships would stay on the superficial level.
4. Grow Trust
One of the most important things in relationship for you is trust. And you take trust very, very seriously. Recognize that trust grows over time and that trust is fostered through transparency. The more open and transparent you are, the more open and transparent people will be with you.
5. Levels of Relationship
Recognize that you have “levels” or “circles” of relationships, while others do not. Think about how people fit on a target: first and most important to you are those who are in your inner circle, which would be the bullseye. You also have other levels — those who are just outside the inner circle, and those who are mere acquaintances. Be conscious of where people fit and what you can do to bring some closer. Understanding someone’s relational potential will open up new opportunities for you and enhance your network.
Identify where people fit in your “circles” and develop your Relator talent.
6. Foster Friendship
You are so good at going deep with others! This can give them the sensation that the depth is returned on your end and that’s often not the case. You are very careful when using the word “friend,” while others presume friendship at a deeper level and might believe it’s reciprocated. Be sensitive of this difference in the ways that other people foster friendship and be generous in recognizing where people hold you.
7. Stop Superficiality
You hate superficiality! Well, guess what? You are the one who can stop it! Often — and especially at social gatherings or during brief encounters — people are uncomfortable and don’t know what to say. So they talk about the weather and other surface stuff, which is likely to annoy you. Recognize that most people hate superficiality, too, but may not have the skills to lead meaningful conversations. Guess who can? You! As soon as you hear something superficial enter a discussion, be the one who changes it.
Try these 7 tips to grow and develop your Relator talent!
Develop Your Relator Talent
Now you have seven ways to develop your Clifton StrengthsFinder Relator talent! If you’d like to learn more, you can visit the Gallup Strengths Center. And join us on Facebook in The Very Best YOU group, where we’re developing our talents every day!
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